tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3456741774915603327.post2454491953409888241..comments2023-06-11T03:39:29.374-04:00Comments on 1+1=3: Something To SayRay and Chrissyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16989899988045905743noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3456741774915603327.post-91882024521316607852008-08-09T17:01:00.000-04:002008-08-09T17:01:00.000-04:00Oh, I have really been thinking about this poast a...Oh, I have really been thinking about this poast and want to add something further... :-) While I think you did a great job in putting in line those suffering from infertility, I also believe that those who are "fertile mertile's" need to be more respectful of those infertilies they may or may not know about around them. It is so upsetting to hear someone complaining how it took them two whole cycles to get pregnant! Whippee! (Sarcasm there.) While it is excellent news and something to be excited about, one must also share the responsibility in "guarding" their emotions around others... Does that make sense or should I have stopped at my single previous post... haha!The Swann'shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03897080926759273403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3456741774915603327.post-18509943796484435322008-08-08T17:49:00.000-04:002008-08-08T17:49:00.000-04:00I agree with what Trish said, whole heartedly. Yo...I agree with what Trish said, whole heartedly. You are right, and brave for saying it. Infertility definitely doesnt make you a better person, parent, and it certainly isn't non-infertile people's fault. I think we should just all support each other, either way. And since I don't know which way it will go for me yet, I can say that I honestly feel for both groups, and totally agree with your entire post. Very well written indeed.*Tina*https://www.blogger.com/profile/11370497709858705287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3456741774915603327.post-46361846720653295712008-08-08T00:07:00.000-04:002008-08-08T00:07:00.000-04:00Without writing a complete novel here, let me say ...Without writing a complete novel here, let me say I read your post like as soon as you posted it and have had to take time to process it... Or should I say, recover from the real slap in the face that you gave me and that I needed!!! :-) While I do agree with everything you've said, I also know that it is something I sometimes (not everyday and not with everyone, if that makes sense?) struggle with and need to keep under wraps! <BR/><BR/>I have learned a LOT about myself in dealing with IF. A LOT about my husband. A lot about our friends and family and my respect (or lack there of) with them! While it would be nice to have my baby in my arms NOW, I also believe that God does have a plan for us and that this is the ride we were meant to get on... Where it will end or when it will end, we don't know! We're just trusting that the safety belt is secured tightly! :-) <BR/><BR/>Again, I'm not going to write a novel but certainly do not think you are out of line in posting that!The Swann'shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03897080926759273403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3456741774915603327.post-67891215464004151402008-08-06T22:19:00.000-04:002008-08-06T22:19:00.000-04:00I sent you an e-mail about this because I didn't w...I sent you an e-mail about this because I didn't want to take up too much space here. I had a lot to say, but the gist is that I agree with everything you said and I think you're a brave girl for saying it. <BR/><BR/>I don't understand how people can belittle someone's happiness any more than I can understand how they could revel in someone's misfortune.Trish Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09421117832336533472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3456741774915603327.post-30272895382075163432008-08-06T12:03:00.000-04:002008-08-06T12:03:00.000-04:00You are so welcome for the blanket! I was happy g...You are so welcome for the blanket! I was happy getting it for you :)<BR/><BR/>I think it's hard not to be resentful and bitter--to an extent--when someone is going through difficulties and other people seem to have no problems at all. When I was struggling to keep a pregnancy I didn't really want to hear about somebody who had so many kids she couldn't even really be a mother to them all, but you know what? I made sure I didn't hear about it. If I was going to be a bitter, jealous person, I made sure to keep it to myself. There's no point to putting all that hostility and negativity out there. True, it's sad and not fair but you can say that about ANYTHING in life. It's the sense of righteous entitlement that I always had a problem with when it comes to some of these women, and I think that's kind of what you're talking about here. Maybe some people who are suffering from infertility would, and will, be great parents. Maybe they won't be any better than somebody who got pregnant by total accident...or who got it on the first try with no trouble. <BR/><BR/>So...long comment short--I don't think you were out of line in saying that instead of being mean about somebody else's situation, they should attempt to look positive in their own....Ann M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/07450730528995565892noreply@blogger.com